College Students Overestimate Peers’ Drinking

WEDNESDAY, Sept. 28 (HealthDay News) — More than 70 percent of U.S. college students overestimate the amount of alcohol that their peers drink.

And this kind of misperception has a strong effect on personal alcohol consumption and associated problems, according to a study of more than 76,000 students at 130 colleges and universities.

For example, at schools where non-drinking was the norm, only 21 percent of students accurately perceived that the typical student at their school did not drink, while 60 percent believed it was common for their peers to consume three or more drinks at a social event or party.

Popularity: unranked [?]

We’ve all had it. The bad hook up. Sometimes it’s so bad you can’t bring yourself to do it again, sometimes you think eh, why not. I’ll try to keep it PG-13 for you, but here are some tips and also a few of my most memorable (or, forgettable) moments:

1. The Move. If you have a “signature” move, chances are it won’t work on every girl. Case in point, I had this one guy try to make out with my ear. I still shudder when I think about him. It wasn’t just a tiny nibble or a bite, he really tried to shove his tongue IN my ear. Gross.
2. The Question. Please, don’t do it. Ever. Don’t ever ask a girl anything resembling the following: “did you come?” or “how was it?” I had someone ask me once, “how many times did you orgasm?” Um…none, thank you. It’s an awkward question, and it’s hard to get out of. You don’t want to lie and be a faker, but you don’t want to tell him no. Guys, you have to realize that orgasm is not the be all end all for women. In fact, we can have a really good time without one (assuming you do everything else right heh). I understand that you want to please her, and I understand that you’re trying to be considerate. But, more often than not it makes her uncomfortable. Granted, this changes the longer you are with a person and the more you get to know them and what they like.
3. The Question Part 2. Another no-no for both guys and girls is “how many people have you slept with?” Nobody wants to know. If it’s too few, if it’s too many…it’s your business. If I want to share with you, I will. If you want to share with me, you can. It also kind of follows the “rule of 3″ as said on American Pie 2. Guys take the number and divide by 1. Girls, take the number and multiply by 3. It’s a double standard society, and while men are studs, women are sluts. To a point of course. I do know of some man whores.
4. The Bragger. I had this guy tell me once (more than once) how well endowed he was. He even regaled me with a story about how in high school guys in the locker room would comment on it, since he was on the shorter side height wise. This was both before and after I had experienced it for myself. He wasn’t all that, no Pee-Wee, but no Dirk Diggler either. Seriously, do you need to advertise your manhood? Poor form gentlemen, poor form.
5. The Bad Kisser. They say that dancing ability is a way to see if someone will be good in bed. I think that kissing is also a good precursor. If it’s sloppy and forced, chances are the sex will be too. Kissing should be fun, not a chore. On that note, as DCLastCall so mentioned, it seems that foreplay is perhaps a lost art. These kids nowadays man, giving blow jobs in the bathroom at school. Come on, what ever happened to a good old make out session? Anticipation is half the fun!
6. The Olympic Marathon Man. This kind of goes with the above statement, but while you want to make sure you spend enough time enjoying your partner before the main event, you don’t want to prolong it too much. Also annoying, changing positions too many times in one session. If something is working, stick with it. Don’t try to be too innovative. At the same time, you don’t want to be boring. Just find what works to make you both happy.

What are your horror stories and/or suggestions?

Popularity: 12% [?]

So my company recently received an award that I applied for. We have applied for many throughout the course of the year, and this is the first we have won so that’s pretty exciting. Now, months ago, my boss told me that I would get a bonus for every award we captured. Well, we got one, and today I emailed her and (among other things) mentioned the bonus and asked if I was going to get it, and said if not that’s OK. I was being completely passive aggressive. She didn’t say anything about it to me, and I didn’t bring it up again. However, I wonder if it was bad of me to say something about it? I mean, I did just get a hefty raise. Was it greedy and unprofessional? Or was it appropriate under the circumstances? Something to ponder…

I was also discussing with a friend tonight how funny it is that something little at work can turn into something so big. The awards for example, very important to me and for my company. But anybody outside that world probably couldn’t care less. You get so wrapped up in work sometimes, and work so hard to get something – that it’s hard not to think that everyone else should appreciate what you do too. You spend hours creating something, or working on an excel chart, preparing a brief – and you mention it to someone else and their eyes glaze over and they smile and nod at you. It almost makes you miss preschool where you got stickers on everything that said how great you were and how you were Excellent! (Well, not really, but you get the idea.)

On another note, I spent three hours of my life watching TV tonight. Even I am disgusted with myself. It’s awful. Shows just sucked me in. My roomie and I watched Surface and Prison Break – both really good shows. I just couldn’t handle the intensity though, too much drama! I know I’m a big dork, but I kind of want to see Doom. Yeah, the movie based on the computer game. Even though I hate scary movies. Considering my roomie and I were shrieking at the creature in Surface and the tension of Prison Break – perhaps partaking in a scary movie is not in my best interest. I love scary movies though, even though they linger in my head for days and even certain scenes will bother me for a long time. Take the movie Carrie for example. Not so scary with today’s standards, but there is this scene at the end where (if I remember right) something is burning and there is a little doll that resembles the mother, and the camera closes in on the doll and its eyes open up and I believe are glowing red. OK, that is the one part of the movie that freaked me out and I still think about. Ridiculous, I know. It’s funny how certain images can get burned into your memory, be it a scary movie, or a traumatic personal experience.

Now that you know how I feel about scary movies, anyone brave enough to watch one with me?

Popularity: 30% [?]

After attending the career fairs, I went to hang out with some of my younger sorority sisters. Since I’m not going back for alumni weekend, I thought it would be nice to see some of the girls I am still close with.

We started the night at Texas Roadhouse. It turned out to be an interesting time because a football player and some of his friends came in and were followed by ESPN. I guess they were filming a “day in the life of” series, and chose that time to have him come eat. It was kind of interesting. Not that I haven’t been around college athletes before, but the cameras were fun. I think it would be really annoying to have them follow you around (like on reality TV) and even worse to be the actual camera and/or microphone holder.

Me and my friend H
(yeah, I know I’m going to get made fun of for wearing that shirt – I’m OK with it though)

After dinner we headed back to the sorority house to get ready to go out. It’s kind of nice being back there, it feels like coming home. Something that remains a constant. This is probably one of the last visits I will make back there, and it was fun to get away and pretend to be 18 again. We hit up the usual Thursday night bars and I definitely enjoyed the CHEAP drinks. $1 beers, $4 double bourbons…oh, I miss that!

Me and my friend N

I returned home from my trip exhausted and then had to turn around and babysit on Friday night. One of my bosses was going to the Blue Oyster Cult concert, so I took care of his kids then ended up finally getting home around 1:30 am. It was good to be home and to catch up with Roomie A again, and to sleep in my own bed! After being up at 6 am and staying up til at least 1 am for the past few nights, I am (still) exhausted.

On Saturday I tried to sleep in, but sadly I couldn’t. Roomie and I contemplated hitting up Blocktoberfest, but went shopping instead and then we both had dinner dates. I met my friend S at Aladdin’s Eatery in Shirlington. If you have never been there, it is amazing. It’s kind of a Lebanese/middle eastern place and has lots of vegetarian and other health-concious selections. They also have great fruit smoothies and desserts. We ate outside on the patio since the weather was so nice. The whole restaurant has a great ambiance though, as I said if you have never been you should check it out. It’s also a great date location!

After dinner I met up with roomie A and our friend J and we went to Clarendon Grill for awhile. The place was packed, and the dancefloor was kickin. It was a sausage fest though, sorry boys! Here’s an action shot…
I have had a long and eventful week…and I know this week will be really busy at work! I hope everyone else had as great of a weekend as I did!

Popularity: 24% [?]

I was watching some old stand up of Dave Chapelle the other night, and it got me thinking. Are women really predisposed to like men with nice cars, houses, jobs, etc? Or are we socialized to think that we do, think that we should…and become a self-fulfilling prophecy? Even a woman who claims that she doesn’t care what her man does is going to have some sort of criteria. That said, they want a man with a job. It may not matter what kind of job, but he better have one. No bugaboo runnin around, no scrubs to look after.

However, are women really that high maintenance to begin with? It’s been said that if he could, a man would woo a woman with fast food and bed her in a cardboard box. But, society says that it takes a lot more than that. It takes a man with ambition, with power, with money, and of course with good looks. It’s the whole package that seals the deal. Perhaps it all boils down to survival of the fittest, and a woman chooses a mate based on primal instinct. That said, she chooses one with strong assets, which ensures that her young are given a better chance of survival. It’s a scientific fact.

But, what is it that makes (some, not all) women want a man with a job. With a car. With money. Is it the idea of becoming the ultimate, the trophy wife? The women you see on TV who spend their days shopping and at the spa? Do women really want that, or is that lifestyle just made to look appealing on TV? Of course, I know that all women are not like this. But, we do live in an increasingly material society, where the Paris Hilton’s of the world are becoming bigger and more sought after. There are books out now based on Park Avenue princesses (Bergdoff Blondes), and shows like Laguna Beach (stupid rich girls) and Super Sweet 16 (bratty rich girls) on MTV idolize the image even more.

Back to my original point, are people really searching for a mate who will give them the luxury lifestyle, or is it just a fantasy world? What caused this shift in our society, and why does it seem some women are content to sit back and not work, when before the battle was fought for the right to work?

Do women really want the trophy wife life? Or are we just tricked into thinking that that is what you should want?

“I’m high maintenance high class, if you ain’t rollin, bypass…”

“Now I ain’t sayin she a gold digger, but she ain’t messin with no broke…”

Popularity: 33% [?]