Comments on: Weight on my Shoulders (or, The Great Weight Debate)

By: AsianMistress

AsianMistress — Wed, 02 Nov 2005 16:57:00 +0000

Thanks for the support everyone.

And yes, I know that I am beautiful no matter what they say!

(Haha)

By: Dennis!

Dennis! — Wed, 02 Nov 2005 15:44:00 +0000

I totally agree with the last anonymous post just above me.

And, at the risk of undermining myself, I think you look great in all the pictures you put up in this post.

Finally, here’s something small to think about, re “what if guys don’t even like me if I’m skinny?” — query whether you really want to be with a guy who won’t give you the time of day when you’re bigger but who suddenly thinks you’re the bomb because you’re thinner.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 02 Nov 2005 13:02:00 +0000

skinny doesn’t equal pretty (external) and it sure as hell doesn’t equal beautiful (inside). so do what u got to do for yourself and no one else.

By: alwayswrite

alwayswrite — Wed, 02 Nov 2005 12:56:00 +0000

A few things from someone who’s been through similar struggles with men and weight:

1. What your ex-boyfriend did to you was abusive. See him, in hindsight, as the pathetic, insecure loser he is.

2. I gained 20 pounds a couple years ago and thought that at my advanced age of 30 there was nothing I could do about it. But WEIGHT WATCHERS proved me wrong. Losing weight is an enormous task and WW takes so much of the pressure off. It really is the only thing that works long-term, I think.

3. This is the perfect weather to step outside and run. If you add a 30- 40-minute jog to your workout routine once a week, it will make a difference in your state of body and mind. (Forgive me if you already do this; I’m just reporting what worked for me.)

4. Whether or not you have “skinny” genes, you have been blessed with “pretty” genes and believe me, those are worth so much more. Feel great about that.

By: Kayla

Kayla — Tue, 01 Nov 2005 22:14:00 +0000

I cannot repeat enough – confidence in yourself is HOT… no matter what the size, what the weight, etc. I have struggled my whole life with my weight… I will always have to watch what I eat, etc. I used to absolutely loathe my body. I am tall, I am curvy, I have muscular legs which require me to buy “extended calf” sexy boots (thank you J. Crew). I always wanted to be thinner and thinner (at one point in my life, i existed on jello – ridiculous!).. wanted to look how I thought men would really want me to look. Funny thing, when I truly accepted myself (and felt good about me) – I realized I had no trouble getting men. If someone says to me now “damn, those are some big legs” (the part of me I have always hated) I say “Damn straight – I run marathons with them”. I had an ex very similar to yours…. and his critism of you shows only his issues – not yours (project much, buddy?!)…

I think you are fabulous and I don’t even know you !