I was a sorority girl. I still am in many ways. I have been told both that I am a pretty stereotypical sorority girl, and also that I am not typical at all – by people who both love and hate Greek girls. I guess that will make perfect sense to those who know me.
For all the loving and hating of Greek life…I have to say I learned a lot being a part of it. I was never really one of the “cool” girls in my sorority – since I didn’t drink and party that much. Actually, I never really learned to drink beer until after college, and I am probably the only sorority alumna to have never done a beer bong.
Most people think that sorority girls are just a bunch of dimwitted party girls who like to drink and hook up a lot. That may be true in some cases, but I know plenty of women who were Greek that were far above that stereotype. My sorority for example, held the highest GPA for over five years of any on campus organization. We were leaders on campus, but also thought of as the “cute, fun” girls by the other fraternities and sororities. It was a good mix.
The stereotype
At my campus, the Greek women in general ruled the school. We were involved in every organization possible on campus, from student government to student media. Greek life had a finger on the pulse of the life of the university. I sincerely think that without it, student participation in university events would have been slim to none.
Personally, towards the end of my college career, I was heavily involved with Greek life and serving on the Panhellenic Executive Board, and I loved it more than I thought I would. It was a great experience, and gave me a lot of confidence and knowledge to be able to do some of the things I am doing now.
I believe that sorority life can be for everyone, it can be what you make of it, and what you want it to be. There was actually an article on CNN recently relating sorority life to Muslim life – and the creation of a Muslim sorority. It’s pretty interesting.
Many people I know who shunned sororities at first, either ended up joining and loving it, or ended up not joining and regretting it. I’m not going to lie and say I forged lifeling friendships or had THE TIME OF MY LIFE, but I will say that I think it gave me more than I ever imagined.
I think that for most people, sorority offers more positive than negative experiences, and even though there will be the hard times and the drama, I believe that in the end it can help shape your college experience, and also make you a better person.
But, what do I know, I’m just a dumb sorostitute, soror-i-whore, and sorority skank.
Some of my favorite stereotypical tips:
- Purchase or make several Greek lettered shirts. They are all the rage, everyone wishes they had one.
- Never let anyone call you a “slut,” but at the same time, make sure you sleep with lots of boys. Obvi.
- The first thing you should do every morning is walk home. It’s not the “Walk of Shame” ladies, it’s the “Stride of Pride!”
- Don’t forget, you’re very similar to a camel… eating isn’t a necessary daily activity. I’m just going to eat this celery.
- You have to pay outrageous dues for sorority membership. Don’t worry, you’ll get cool t-shirts.
- Never drink beer in large quantities. However, you are encouraged to drink “jungle juice” until you can’t feel feelings.
- Glitter must be applied in half pound increments. God, glitter is so hot right now.
- Take a pop music song and change the words to reflect your sorority’s coolness and dominance.
- Get yourself a “24 hour key” to the local tanning place in town. Nothing says “I’m a sorority girl” like skin cancer.
- If you must eat, your diet can only consist of: salad, fresh fruit, chocolate, cigarettes and bottled water.
- Place your Greek letters somewhere on your AOL Instant Messenger buddy profile. Color coordination is preferred, but exceptions can totally be made with respect to holiday color schemes.
- In preparation for rush: 1) Buy some cute new outfits. 2) Get your hair styled & highlighted. 3) Whiten your teeth.
- No matter the number of fraternities on campus, your sorority is only cool enough to mix with a select few.
- Class is not a place to learn. Rather, it’s a place to make your Greek presence felt.
- Don’t worry about getting any STDs silly… you’re on birth control. Public Enemy #1: Venereal Diseases
- Your new mating call will go like this, “I’m soooooo drunk… God, I’m sooooo drunk.”
- Master the art of Instant Messenger; it will become your livelihood.
- If your cell phone goes off in class just tell your Professor that you’re in a sorority.
- Go to the gym more than any varsity athlete. Side note: Totally wear your Greek letters and makeup whenever you work out
- During rush, Don’t bother to actually get to know the Rushees, a 5 minute conversation will do. Added points for cute shoes.
“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation
because your character is who you really are while your reputation is merely what others think of you.”
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And some of the more *sparkling* facts:
- 85 percent of the Fortune 500 executives are members of Greek organizations.
- 25 United States Presidents have belonged to Greek-letter organizations.
- Fraternities and sororities have maintained a higher grade point average than the undergraduate average at most universities.
- Greek organization members have a higher graduation rate than non-members.
- A study by the Center for the Study of College Fraternities found that fraternity and sorority members we significantly more satisfied with their college experience than non-members.
- 63 percent of the U.S. President’s cabinet since 1900 have been fraternity men.
- 77 percent of Who’s Who in America are Greek.
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Ooh, this is a tough one for me.
I prefer to be a rugged individual, so sororities are not my thing. But I’m glad that you gleaned something positive from it and didn’t end up being some cookie cutter sorority bitch.
From one Greek girl to another, great post! My sorority also had the highest GPA on campus–which I liked to point out to all the haters. Oh, and “Stride of Pride”? Hi-larious.
I don’t have much to add on this… except BRAVO on correct utilization of “alumna”. If I hear one more person refer to someone else as “an alumni” I’m going to spear that person’s eye with a toothpick.
I wonder what it would have been like to go to a school with a Greek system. I think GW maybe had a fraternity or two, but I don’t think anyone belonged to them.
I never thought I would rush, but it was actually really fun and I loved it. I am now black listed nationaly from a certain sorority for accepting their bid but not pledging, opps! But at AU it’s really not that big of a deal.
BL and I met CR through APO when we pledged and I would have to say that even though I enjoyed the experience and loved my littles etc, CR is the only lasting thing I took from it. HEART Eta Phi baby, too cool, too cool! HA!
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I was never Greek, but my school had a different take on it cuz the fraternities and sororities were non-residential, so everyone still lived together in the dorms. I had friends who were and friends who weren’t, so it was no biggie to me.
Your list of rules was really striking to me, though, on how much the social aspect of college has changed since I was there. When *I* was in college, there was no IM and no one had cell phones except for car emergencies. I can’t imagine what campus must be like now, with buzzing and beeping and vibrating, oh my!
Boy – I actually have a few friends who were greek at GW – one Kappa and one Jewish frat (AEPi maybe? I forget)…there are good and bad ones there.
Stef – I know I have the same thoughts about kids in high school now! I had friends who were greek and not greek, my roommates in college actually weren’t. It’s good to balance I think.
I-66 – I try.
Siryn – I’m glad I’m not cookie cutter. Heh.
BJ – whoo for smart sorostitutes! Heh.
PIP – what organization? You’re probably not balled for life – just for a year out you can’t rush again. Not that it matters now.
Oh, I was a sorority girl. No surprise there. And I loved it – made a big university feel smaller, and my closest friends from those days were in my sorority. No doubt I hated some of the other girls, and no doubt I drank my face off many times, and no doubt we did NOT have highest GPA (*cough*GEEKS*cough*), but it was completely, utterly worth it. I lived in my house for two years, even.
Kat – haha I did not say that MY GPA contributed to that honor.
Granted when you’re looking at having above a 2.5 to get that, it’s not THAT great. Heh.
I always viewed frats and though of my time in the boy scouts – - two weeks, punctuated by the statement: “fuck, this is a club for people who can’t make friends on their own.”
Then again, I was only in college for a year.
AUA – oh so you’re saying I had to buy my friends?
Actually…I did.
Thank God blogging is free.
Hehehe.
That former frat and sorority members become successful is self evident: the type of people that will join are more likely to be the “tow the line” suck ups that will make it in the corporate world. Not an ounce of individuality in it all. Every day I thank jeebus I went to a small school with no Greek Life.
Anon – I view it more as another way to socialize, the same as joining say a corporate softball team to meet people, or an alumni group, or another college group, etc…
To say that individuality is gone once you join a Greek organization is pretty narrow minded.
True, but more often than not, it is the case. Maybe I’m bitter because I had a really good friend from high school become a complete dick after he became a DKE; maybe I’m also bitter that I didn’t enjoy the benefits of having a large amount of drunk, wild, sorority chicks around. Maybe.
By the way, I like the blog, I just really don’t like Greek life.
I was never a sority girl either. The reason I didn’t join is because I went to college with my best friends. I don’t regret not joining because I wasn’t interested in it. However, a few of my friends that went to colleges where they didn’t know anyone joined sororities and seemed to have enjoyed it. I don’t agree that being Greek is for everyone, but for the ones that loved it…good for them!
We didn’t have Greek at my school. Made the choice easy for me.
My college was so small, we had enough cliqueing as it was. I don’t know much about Greek, and I am glad I didn’t have to worry about it in school.
Not that it’s a bad thing, but I feel like it would have been one more thing for me to stress about.
Is anyone surprised to hear that I was going to be kicked out of my sorority until I resigned…sort of like Nixon.
I was fortunate to have an incredibly worthwhile Greek experience in college. But I can still understand why “Sorority”, “Fraternity” and “Greek” have all have become such pejorative terms. And when you think about Alexandra Robbins’ Pledged and MTV Sorority Life, among other things, it’s no wonder.
Unfortunately, sometimes college Greek systems become stages for the worst kinds of collegeiate behavior. But let’s be honest…for every sorority clique getting drunk in a frat house on Saturday night, don’t you know there is a clique of unafiliated freshman girls doing the same thing (and all wearing the same thing: black pants and glitter, for that matter).
I know the good side and I also know it’s hard to explain to someone who doesn’t, why it can be a positive experiece. (Try answering the “why would a smart girl like you join a sorority? question from your grandma). But I still hate to hear the knee-jerk, “I’m too individulistic for that BS/There just a bunch of drunk girls too dumb NOT to put out” reactionary responses to the mere mention of Greek life.
Sorority Alumna do go on to lead productive lives after college (We are paralegals, Teach For America Teachers, Harvard PhD candidates, Med Students, Law Students, Hill Staffers…)
Sorry to be anonymous, I’m a lj, not a blogger.
Ahh, we can’t spell though.
I never liked to proof-read…
Anoymous lj-er again.
I loved being in a sorority and I’m still reaping the benefits as alumni. Sure sometimes our chapter meetings were watching Machiavelli’s “The Prince” play out, but I still loved the experience.
You are a making a lot of valid points about why Greek life can be an amazing opportunity for anyone in college. Historically Greek organizations were founded around a true sisterhood or brotherhood that had common ideals and worked together to reach admirable goals. Unfortunately many Greeks out there today do not hold themselves to that higher standard and their transgressions are creating the downfall of Greek life. They say it only takes a few bad apples, and this situation is no different.
I am a member of Theta Nu Xi Multicultural Sorority – and my organization represents just the beginning of a new phase in Greek life which is anything but traditional. My organization wants to bring back the higher standards on which Greek life was founded.
There are a lot of negative things going on in the Greek world right now – and I can honestly tell you I would not have joined a traditional sorority. But after reading your post I know we do share a lot of the positive experiences of Greek life. I hope that people will always be able to benefit from a close brotherhood or sisterhood – but it is in danger.
I was a president of the Inter-Greek Council at my college and we talked about ways to save the Greek system all the time. My opinion – higher standards to live up to and offering orgs that want to be purely social the opportunity to become just social orgs.
Here’s to hoping ….
#3 Charisma
SPR 01 – Delta Chapter – Theta Nu Xi Multicultural Sorority, Inc.
Great post. I’m not going to be trite and pretend that Greek life is for everyone, but it has been good to me and I’ve met some of my best friends in university through the Greek system.
The Greek scene is still pretty small at my school, but the Greeks do dominate a lot of leadership positions
I never came across a sorority girl who was even worth speaking to. Dumb, elitist, promiscuous and even more judgmental than you’ll assume I am, their assumption that they “rule” the school always made me laugh. No, honey. No one who isn’t in your silly little system gives two shits about you, your functions or your rules. The football players think they rule the school, too. So do the basketball players. The guys who run the IT department think the same thing, since they maintain your Internet connection.
The U.S. Greek system is a blight on its educational landscape and is made for people who need their cliques and buddies in order to survive. As someone else said above, there’s barely and ounce of individualism or uniqueness amongst you people. It’s very, very sad.
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