Secret Society Wannabe

May 18, 2006 Author: Larissa | Filed under: Sorority

This article in the Post sparked my memory to something that I may wish to be, but probably never will obtain. There is no reason for it and nothing good about it. I’m actually quite ashamed to admit it but…

I’d love to be a member of the Madison Club or the Junior League (and not just for the good cookbooks). JL may be an attainable goal, but I don’t think Madison Club would accept an Asian, non Ivy league, non blue blood, non skinny, non Republican girl.

Some real Madison Girls

Why do I want to be a part of this “group” so bad – the sorority girl (OK, so I was one of those), the trophy wife, the WASP? Why would I want to become an empty shell and mold myself to what high society deems is important (thin, blonde and rich)? Who wants to be boring and vapid and pretentious and pretend to be something they are not?

I don’t really know what it is that attracts me to it. Maybe it’s just the idea of some Stepford fantasy where everything seems so easy and the world is your oyster. Summers in the Hamptons, winters in St. Tropez, golf tournaments and horse races and fundraisers and galas, oh my. It’s a world of luxury and power, high class and networking…and a world of secrets, loneliness, and boredom. Desperate Housewives indeed.

I guess in reality I wouldn’t want to be a part of something like this. Nor would I be able to really fit in. I’m sure I would get bored, and lord knows it would be exhausting trying to keep up appearances.

I know it’s sad that I think about wanting to be one of these girls, but at least I am a realist and know that for one, I never will be; and two, I don’t need to be that kind of person; and three I am a better person because I know those two things.

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Irina May 18th, 2006 at 12:24 pm 1

Societies like these don’t appeal to me, though I have always been really interested in Freemasons. Apparently women can be freemasons as well. I’ve made it my life’s goal.
Anonymous May 18th, 2006 at 1:15 pm 2

I don’t think you should want to be part of a group like this. It makes me want to vomit.

Who wants to move to the West coast?
Twoste May 18th, 2006 at 3:41 pm 3

Well, one benfit might be that you’d get to hang out with that blonde chick in the last photo. God! What a hottie!
But seriously, why?
Join a professional organization if you want to feel like a member of an exclusive club, there’s lots of that kind of thing in Washington.
Otherwise, exclusive organizations are for people who choose to submit their free will to the identity of the collective. Are you really a socialist? I don’t think so.
Plus, it’s a lot cooler to laugh at those people rather than being one of those people that laughs at everyone else.
It’s like guys in bars that still put their collars up…dousche bags.
Asian Mistress May 18th, 2006 at 4:08 pm 4

Well as I said I don’t *really* want to be a part of it, I just think about it sometimes, what it would be like.

But yeah, I definitely understand the exclusive idiocy of it all.
O-FACE May 19th, 2006 at 2:20 am 5

Whew….Yeah, don’t join that pretentious, stuck up society….Too much going on in life to be like that…..so pleasantville.
Stef May 19th, 2006 at 7:54 am 6

Oh, I think you’d make a better Veronica than a Heather.
KassyK May 19th, 2006 at 9:42 am 7

I was invited to a few meetings by a close friend in the JLeague. I was shocked bc not only am I not Repub or blonde but I’m a Jew. I guess recommendations and red hair go a long way in getting your foot in the door.

Needless to say I didnt go. I picked a sorority in college that was mixed in terms of race, religion, sluttiness, prudiness and partying. Yeah so they are all hot but they are also all intelligent and entertaining as opposed to a bunch of clones.

But I feel ya–When I was invited for tea at JLeague…there was an sickening twinge that made me feel good. And then I punched myself in the face.
Asian Mistress May 19th, 2006 at 10:56 am 8

Kassy K – I have a friend in JL too, and she is from Columbia!

But she is also gorgeous, so ya know, take your pick.
Anonymous May 21st, 2006 at 11:00 pm 9

Interestingly enough, I have a friend part of this club–not rich, not blonde, non Ivy league…but witty and candid and fabulous all the same!

Sterotyping what you perceive a group to be is a little hypocritical, don’t you think? I love, love, love reading this blog, and 100% respect that these are your own opinions, and that I can not read it if I don’t like it…but I think you would be more than a little surprised by these women. A great group.

Just my two cents