Comments on: A Question of Playing by the Rules http://www.citysparkledc.com/2006/11/a-question-of-playing-by-the-rules/ A formerly anon blogger, trying to make it honest Mon, 18 Jan 2010 01:26:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: NubianTemptres43 http://www.citysparkledc.com/2006/11/a-question-of-playing-by-the-rules/#comment-6987 NubianTemptres43 Mon, 06 Nov 2006 18:03:00 +0000 http://citysparkle.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/a-question-of-playing-by-the-rules/#comment-6987 we've discussed this . . . and i'm note a fan of the rules, playing games or anything of that nature. instead of thinking of it as rules, think of it as setting bounderies to give yourself time to get to know a person before jumping into something and doing something that you may regret later. if it takes you three minutes to decide that you want to sleep with someone and you will have no expectations, then so be it . . . but if you know that you want to save yourself from the hassle of bringing someone into your life to see them walk away however long later and you're left discussing with your friends, what happenend, did you have sex too soon, did you say the wrong thing, call to often, etc. then so be it . . . my point is this - being cautious with your timing on the front end will save you time, energy, etc. on the back end.--> we’ve discussed this . . . and i’m note a fan of the rules, playing games or anything of that nature.

instead of thinking of it as rules, think of it as setting bounderies to give yourself time to get to know a person before jumping into something and doing something that you may regret later. if it takes you three minutes to decide that you want to sleep with someone and you will have no expectations, then so be it . . . but if you know that you want to save yourself from the hassle of bringing someone into your life to see them walk away however long later and you’re left discussing with your friends, what happenend, did you have sex too soon, did you say the wrong thing, call to often, etc. then so be it . . .

my point is this – being cautious with your timing on the front end will save you time, energy, etc. on the back end.–>

]]> By: Siryn http://www.citysparkledc.com/2006/11/a-question-of-playing-by-the-rules/#comment-6986 Siryn Mon, 06 Nov 2006 06:46:00 +0000 http://citysparkle.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/a-question-of-playing-by-the-rules/#comment-6986 Men and women have been playing games since time immemorial. Men and women have always known how to push the other's buttons. There is nothing new under the sun. That said, some rules are there for a reason, although it's hard to know when to break them. Especially the one about calling after 3 days - it's too easy if you're overly enthusiastic to smother someone else. But at the same time, if you're into them and had a great time, and really felt the same, you should feel free to call the next day or email or something. Eh. All the rules have foundation in reason, but flexibility is key - the trick is in knowing how to read people. Men and women have been playing games since time immemorial. Men and women have always known how to push the other’s buttons. There is nothing new under the sun.

That said, some rules are there for a reason, although it’s hard to know when to break them. Especially the one about calling after 3 days – it’s too easy if you’re overly enthusiastic to smother someone else. But at the same time, if you’re into them and had a great time, and really felt the same, you should feel free to call the next day or email or something.

Eh. All the rules have foundation in reason, but flexibility is key – the trick is in knowing how to read people.

]]> By: Leaf http://www.citysparkledc.com/2006/11/a-question-of-playing-by-the-rules/#comment-6985 Leaf Sat, 04 Nov 2006 04:50:00 +0000 http://citysparkle.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/a-question-of-playing-by-the-rules/#comment-6985 sex first night. decide if you should date after that. throw all rules out the window. sex first night. decide if you should date after that. throw all rules out the window.

]]> By: R2K http://www.citysparkledc.com/2006/11/a-question-of-playing-by-the-rules/#comment-6984 R2K Sat, 04 Nov 2006 03:50:00 +0000 http://citysparkle.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/a-question-of-playing-by-the-rules/#comment-6984 : ) : )

]]> By: Phil http://www.citysparkledc.com/2006/11/a-question-of-playing-by-the-rules/#comment-6983 Phil Fri, 03 Nov 2006 18:45:00 +0000 http://citysparkle.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/a-question-of-playing-by-the-rules/#comment-6983 Someone once told me "12 dates" before completely giving it up (from the woman's side). Someone once told me “12 dates” before completely giving it up (from the woman’s side).

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