Comments on: A Question of Vulnerability http://www.citysparkledc.com/2006/11/a-question-of-vulnerability/ A formerly anon blogger, trying to make it honest Mon, 18 Jan 2010 01:26:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Siryn http://www.citysparkledc.com/2006/11/a-question-of-vulnerability/#comment-7009 Siryn Tue, 28 Nov 2006 06:51:00 +0000 http://citysparkle.wordpress.com/2006/11/17/a-question-of-vulnerability/#comment-7009 Since most women cannot, despite proclamations to the contrary, screw like a man and dissociate sex from love, it is worse to go into it knowing that you will get hurt, IMO. Or going into it thinking you are just using the guy, but ending up being used. I think that the vulnerability Katherine Heigl meant cannot be the same as the one that comes from real intimacy - and not just with lovers or partners. We make ourselves vulnerable to our friends, family... people with whom we have trust and bonds. All good relationships involve vulnerability, the ability to let your guard down. This is not the same, and the answer IMO is a no-brainer. Subjecting yourself to anything you know is unhealthy is dumb, but making yourself vulnerable in the right context is always going to be okay. Since most women cannot, despite proclamations to the contrary, screw like a man and dissociate sex from love, it is worse to go into it knowing that you will get hurt, IMO. Or going into it thinking you are just using the guy, but ending up being used.

I think that the vulnerability Katherine Heigl meant cannot be the same as the one that comes from real intimacy – and not just with lovers or partners. We make ourselves vulnerable to our friends, family… people with whom we have trust and bonds. All good relationships involve vulnerability, the ability to let your guard down.

This is not the same, and the answer IMO is a no-brainer. Subjecting yourself to anything you know is unhealthy is dumb, but making yourself vulnerable in the right context is always going to be okay.

]]> By: Aileen http://www.citysparkledc.com/2006/11/a-question-of-vulnerability/#comment-7008 Aileen Sun, 19 Nov 2006 05:20:00 +0000 http://citysparkle.wordpress.com/2006/11/17/a-question-of-vulnerability/#comment-7008 I'm confused. I'm not too sure what "hook up only" kind of deal really means. Do we really do this feeling 100% sure that we won't get involved? Are you talking one night stand, or ongoing hookup? Personally, I don't think I've been able to master the ability to disconnect emotional involvment from sexual involvement (though I wish I could!) :) I’m confused. I’m not too sure what “hook up only” kind of deal really means. Do we really do this feeling 100% sure that we won’t get involved? Are you talking one night stand, or ongoing hookup? Personally, I don’t think I’ve been able to master the ability to disconnect emotional involvment from sexual involvement (though I wish I could!) :)

]]> By: KassyK http://www.citysparkledc.com/2006/11/a-question-of-vulnerability/#comment-7007 KassyK Sun, 19 Nov 2006 01:00:00 +0000 http://citysparkle.wordpress.com/2006/11/17/a-question-of-vulnerability/#comment-7007 I'm not sure which is worse...probably going into it knowing you will end up getting hurt eventually (no matter how much we tell ourselves we are knowingly walking into it--it still often hurts). While letting go and being crushed is devastating (I have been there)...ultimatley its probably the better bet. :) I’m not sure which is worse…probably going into it knowing you will end up getting hurt eventually (no matter how much we tell ourselves we are knowingly walking into it–it still often hurts). While letting go and being crushed is devastating (I have been there)…ultimatley its probably the better bet. :)

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