Comments on: Dating and Hooking Up: Truths and Lies http://www.citysparkledc.com/2007/03/dating-and-hooking-up-truths-and-lies/ A formerly anon blogger, trying to make it honest Mon, 18 Jan 2010 01:26:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: feelingflirty http://www.citysparkledc.com/2007/03/dating-and-hooking-up-truths-and-lies/#comment-7480 feelingflirty Fri, 27 Jul 2007 05:58:20 +0000 http://citysparkle.wordpress.com/2007/03/08/dating-and-hooking-up-truths-and-lies/#comment-7480 There are never too many or too few times to enjoy sex together. There's only a problem if you don't agree. There are never too many or too few times to enjoy sex together. There’s only a problem if you don’t agree.

]]> By: C. http://www.citysparkledc.com/2007/03/dating-and-hooking-up-truths-and-lies/#comment-7479 C. Sat, 14 Apr 2007 23:18:04 +0000 http://citysparkle.wordpress.com/2007/03/08/dating-and-hooking-up-truths-and-lies/#comment-7479 I have to argue with Item #2. I'm aware of several situations of where the female part of the bargin had the sensation (albeit fleeting and false) that she was needed/important. Same, in fact, on the male end; there's that inflated sense of importance that we get from a regular casual sex partner. Smash: you mean to say that you don't mind grinding genitals with someone, but you get that annoyed with someone sharing your bed afterwards? Methinks your priorities are a little mixed... I have to argue with Item #2. I’m aware of several situations of where the female part of the bargin had the sensation (albeit fleeting and false) that she was needed/important. Same, in fact, on the male end; there’s that inflated sense of importance that we get from a regular casual sex partner.

Smash: you mean to say that you don’t mind grinding genitals with someone, but you get that annoyed with someone sharing your bed afterwards? Methinks your priorities are a little mixed…

]]> By: Smash http://www.citysparkledc.com/2007/03/dating-and-hooking-up-truths-and-lies/#comment-7473 Smash Thu, 22 Mar 2007 15:02:39 +0000 http://citysparkle.wordpress.com/2007/03/08/dating-and-hooking-up-truths-and-lies/#comment-7473 I can't STAND it when random hook-up guys sleep over. I seriously HATE it. I can’t STAND it when random hook-up guys sleep over. I seriously HATE it.

]]> By: DofAM http://www.citysparkledc.com/2007/03/dating-and-hooking-up-truths-and-lies/#comment-7475 DofAM Sun, 11 Mar 2007 13:37:42 +0000 http://citysparkle.wordpress.com/2007/03/08/dating-and-hooking-up-truths-and-lies/#comment-7475 Most serious relationships that I know of usually featured a minimum of a month with out full on sex (note Clintonian sex is excluded from this category). My experience was lots of less than 30 days, no marriage. One plus 30 days (which was hard for both of us), marriage. Last thing, I never met a woman who after we had sex that didn't want a relationship. A la Carrie in Sex in the City, there's a switch, and once you cross that line it goes off. Another big old $0.02 for you. GL Most serious relationships that I know of usually featured a minimum of a month with out full on sex (note Clintonian sex is excluded from this category). My experience was lots of less than 30 days, no marriage. One plus 30 days (which was hard for both of us), marriage.

Last thing, I never met a woman who after we had sex that didn’t want a relationship. A la Carrie in Sex in the City, there’s a switch, and once you cross that line it goes off.

Another big old $0.02 for you.

GL

]]> By: namaste http://www.citysparkledc.com/2007/03/dating-and-hooking-up-truths-and-lies/#comment-7478 namaste Fri, 09 Mar 2007 17:46:58 +0000 http://citysparkle.wordpress.com/2007/03/08/dating-and-hooking-up-truths-and-lies/#comment-7478 I think it is all dependent on where you are in life and what you think you want. However, I do think that hooking up in lieu of a quality relationship may seem like the easiest thing to do at the time, but it's just putting a bandaid on a bigger issue of how one sees oneself in a real realtionship. Either we don't think that we're deserving of something real, or we claim not to have a care, like, we're totally in control, when really, we're just more comfortable with having sex with people we don't like because it allows us to get the physical side of what we want without letting another person in. First date sex? Sometimes it works out, sometimes it won't. I caution against it because it can often lead to a lot of first dates, and that's just skank. And cuddling? Cuddling is sometimes more important than sex. Best to be clear and be confused. I think it is all dependent on where you are in life and what you think you want. However, I do think that hooking up in lieu of a quality relationship may seem like the easiest thing to do at the time, but it’s just putting a bandaid on a bigger issue of how one sees oneself in a real realtionship. Either we don’t think that we’re deserving of something real, or we claim not to have a care, like, we’re totally in control, when really, we’re just more comfortable with having sex with people we don’t like because it allows us to get the physical side of what we want without letting another person in. First date sex? Sometimes it works out, sometimes it won’t. I caution against it because it can often lead to a lot of first dates, and that’s just skank. And cuddling? Cuddling is sometimes more important than sex. Best to be clear and be confused.

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